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"I believe that it’s a myth that you need to date lots of people. I don’t see why you should date someone unless you think its going to be long term because if not its just going to end up with heart-ache and therefore leaving its mark on you in the future. Just take dating really slow, make sure the person is right for you and don’t believe that romance is dead."
KG
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"When I was 14 I made a decision to not date until I was 18, I knew I wasn’t ready to start dating and I didn’t want to get involved with someone and realise we couldn’t make it work, I had seen too many family/friends get hurt that way and I knew I wanted a relationship better than that.
I didn’t plan on carrying it on after 18, I thought I would jump straight into a relationship because that’s what I’ve always thought I wanted. When I turned 18 I realised I still didn’t want to start dating, I was still searching for who I am and I wasn’t in a place to give anything of worth to another person. I knew that my self-worth was coming from what other people thought about me and I couldn’t get into a relationship knowing I would be expecting the other person to validate who I am and to make me feel secure in myself. So I spent quality time getting to know what God say’s about me, getting to know myself in that and learning to live out of a relationship with God as my Dad, not how many guys I could get to like me.
Making a decision to save sex for marriage came from this decision I made to not date until I was ready."
Lilly |
"I decided about a year ago that I wasn’t going to date until I was 18. I still didn’t really trust that I’d be able to control myself if I had a boyfriend. Now that I’m eighteen, I realise how much that’s benefitted me. I can get along just fine without a boyfriend – more than fine! Some people say “you’re setting your standards too high”. No girl can set her standards too high, and I really believe that. Making this journey has made me realise how valuable I am, so I’m happy to wait for the right person. I’m in no rush."
Lauren
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"Being single has granted me so many freedoms that being in a relationship does not. I have been able to focus on me, on my studies, and on what I want in life. Don’t get me wrong though, I think that a relationship, the right relationship is great and I can’t wait to get married. But I know that there will be a season in my life that will bring me a husband. Right now my time is for me and I’m loving it!
I’m able to be independent, and grow by myself, learning things about myself that previously I didn’t know. I’m so glad that I didn’t give into the pressures at school of needing to be in a relationship, because the truth is, you don’t!
You don’t need to be in a relationship to have an amazingly full life – to be happy. My life is so full and busy that I know that I’m not missing out on anything. The great thing is that because I have kept myself pure and haven’t gone from relationship to relationship, I know that God will bring along the right man at the right time to be my husband, and he will definitely be worth the wait!"
Perri
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