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| "I keep my wife as my standard of beauty. If I compare her to other people, that would make me dissatisfied. If I look at pictures of women, my wife could never meet all those expectations. She can’t be blonde and brunette, curvy and slim, tanned and white. So she is my standard. She is the most beautiful person in the world to me and I will not compare her to others. That way she will always be my beautiful bride."
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| "I stay away from things like porn, dirty movies and magazines and even film/movies with sexual references which helps me to be less tempted about wanting to have sex." |
"Watching porn is so watered down by society as a normal thing to do but its not. Its so dangerous as its highly addictive. You can get to a stage where you cant do anything else but watch porn, its so addictive that you will put your life on hold just to watch it. You can never remove images from your brain. They don’t show what life and sex really is like. Sex isn’t just satisfaction it’s a form of love.
Porn gives the message that people are just to be used, as long as you feel pleased it doesn’t matter what the other person feels or how you treat them. That is not right and will give you a wrong view on life possibly ruining relationships. Porn will make you feel insecure about your body and relationships thinking that you can never match how porn makes people and sex look like."
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"People I knew would make their ventures public, whilst I kept mine secret, getting my 'fix' from porn sites, feeding the urge to have sex even more. I knew I wasn't doing the right thing, but I was trying to justify all these actions thinking "oh I’m not harming anybody" or "but surely I would need some sort of experience before I have a wife", brushing it aside like that. I treated girls in a way where I would just 'use' them, I see now how selfish my attitude was, feeding this mindset with pornography. I also see that this could damage someone; I mean seriously affect them emotionally, mentally." |
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I had seen pornography from the age of about 3
and I slowly got lured deeper and deeper into the pornography world of lust and desire, where I wanted nothing more than to dominate a woman. The biggest problem was that I realised my partner wasn’t one of these mental images that I was lusting over.
My relationship has gone from strength to strength ever since I gave it up because I don’t need pornography or vile images to fulfil me." |
"As a young boy of 12 or 13, I encountered, outside the home, in the local grocery and drug stores, softcore pornography. It happened gradually, not overnight. Like an addiction, you keep craving something which is harder and gives you a greater sense of excitement, until you reach the point where the pornography only goes so far - that jumping off point where you begin to wonder if maybe actually doing it will give you that which is just beyond reading about it and looking at it.
I knew it was wrong to think about it, and certainly, to do it was wrong. I was on the edge, and the last of my restraint was being tested constantly through the kind of fantasy life that was fuelled, largely, by pornography. It’s a very difficult thing to describe - the sensation of reaching that point where I knew I couldn’t control it anymore. The barriers I had learned as a child were not enough to hold me back from seeking out and harming somebody."
Ted Bundy, Serial Killer - Executed 1989
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